Do you have
a child on their way to college for the first time? As my sons prepare to change
schools in the Fall, I’ve taken time to reflect on the first time they left
home. Below is my reflection from five years ago when my oldest left for
college.
I opened the
door to my sons’ bedroom one morning and stood there a few seconds watching him
sleep. Snuggled under a blanket, his six foot two frame didn’t leave much room
at the edge of his bed. As my son prepares to embark upon the college years, I
am reminded that his room will soon be empty (unless his brother takes it
over).
It can be an
emotional time knowing that your first born will soon leave the nest. It may
require you getting your heart and head ready. But, isn’t this what we spend 17
or 18 years preparing for? Getting him ready to one day become independent?
As I was
thinking about my son leaving for college, I had a flashback to my pregnancy
days and reading the book, What to expect
when you’re expecting. Now I am wondering whether there is a book titled What to expect in the college years? Maybe
the assumption is that by college years parents are wise enough to handle a
myriad of situations. Hmmm…we shall see.
So, how does
a parent prepare for a child going to college? Here are a few things I learned
along the way:
1. Know that you have taught your child
well and she will be ok.
2. Let your child know that he can call
you any time.
3. Spend quality time together before he
goes away – this may be more for you than for your child. For our family, we
reinstated family nights. When the kids were younger, we would dedicate one
night each week for doing something fun.
Usually, this meant playing board games or card games.
4. You can give digital hug –in this day
and age you can always text, Skype, face time or use some other form of
technology to give a quick hello to your child.
5. Turn your energy to yourself – maybe
there are things you’ve wanted to do, but have put them off, do them now. Are
there hobbies you’ve neglected or old friends you haven’t seen in a while? Now
is the time.
6. If you have other children at home,
rest assured that if you don’t get the college thing right this time…you still
have another chance.
As I closed
the door to my son’s bedroom, I left him resting peacefully and thought I have done my best and it will be okay.
Do you have
tips for coping with a child going away to college?
