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Showing posts with label sibling rivalry. Show all posts
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Monday, January 11, 2016

Muffins with Mom – The Gingerbread Boys on the loose-sibling rivalry

Gingerbread
photo credit and recipe

Run, run as fast as you can, you can’t catch me, I’m the gingerbread man. You may be familiar with this refrain from the popular children’s story titled The Gingerbread Man. I was reminded of this story the other day after I baked a pan of gingerbread.

Fresh out of the oven, I placed the pan of hot gingerbread in a safe place to cool. My oldest son, ‘D’ loves gingerbread, my other son, ‘J’, is not really a cake/brownie type of eater. So, in my mind the delectable treat was meant for ‘D’ and me.

Perched on my bed with pillows propped behind me and glasses at the edge of my nose, I sat reading a book. After a few minutes, I heard bumping noises, then the sound of a herd of elephants headed in my direction.

Before I could seek shelter, my two boys burst through my bedroom door, arguing over the gingerbread. ‘J’ had the pan of gingerbread in tow as he said, “Ma, who is the gingerbread for?”
I said, “Everybody can have some, but I didn’t think you would want any.” That opening statement was all he needed to antagonize his brother.

“See, I told you, it’s not all just for you,” he said.

“Yeah, but you need to let it cool off,” said D.

Little did I know that Betty Crocker would cause such a ruckus in my house. I told ‘J’, “You’d better run, run as fast as you can, ‘cause you’re still holding the gingerbread pan.”

Both boys ran off with a thud, thud, thump. My gingerbread boys were swift as they ran back to the kitchen, where their problem started. They came to a resolution-they would share the delectable treat. What a novel idea (sarcasm intended). However, the story did not end there.

The next day, as I entered the kitchen, I spotted the pan of gingerbread. It was on the counter, uncovered, open to all elements, getting hard. I wonder if Betty Crocker had kids… and did they let her hard work go to waste?


Do your kids experience sibling rivalry or other challenging situations?

Friday, August 17, 2012

What happens when kids don’t come with an owner’s manual?

Trial of the missing socks.


I think it’s time to gather all of my writer friends and parents who have survived…kids. Is there an owner’s manual for kids that I don’t know about? Sure there are books like What to expect when you’re expecting and What to expect in the toddler years, but I need a different manual.
How about a book or manual called, What to expect when your kids lose their minds? I was at a writer’s networking day, relaxing and enjoying conversations. We were going around the table introducing ourselves when I got the call from my oldest son.

The phone buzzed and Donovan’s picture popped up. I hit ignore with a message. He then texted me. The message read, “Ma, did you say Joshua could have a pair of my new socks?”

I moved my head up and down adjusting the bifocals on my glasses, to make sure I was reading the text correctly. Yep, that’s what the message said, “Ma did you say Joshua could have a pair of my new socks?”

I paused, furrowed my brows and thought, Really? You are texting me about a pair of socks while I’m at my relaxing meeting? I responded with, “No, handle it until I get home.”
In my son’s eyes this situation must have constituted an emergency. I called him an hour later when I was on my way home and the problem had been resolved. I was glad that the boys practiced conflict resolution rather than going after each other (this time…smile).

This sock fiasco has an ironic side; In few weeks the socks will end up in a heap of clean clothes that no one wants to sort or put away.
When kids don’t come with an owner’s manual, you write it as you go and grow. Sprinkle it with your personality, demands (rules) and adopt it as law in your household. It is totally acceptable to make amendments to your manual.

What situations would you include in your owner’s manual on raising kids?